How we met pt 2…

Before I give my side of our story, which I will do on tomorrow. I wanted to say a few things more things because I had gotten some questions yesterday…

As some of you know my journey to my husband was a long one. Filled with years and years of bad relationships. Even after I was saved and started to get to know God I still went through a few relationships that I thought were God, but they didn’t work out. I realized in those two relationships I thought just because the men that I had dated had grown up in the church, and they still went to church periodically, and they knew the word, or they spoke of God, or prayed, that God had sent them. We’ll the first one I sought out (without any leading from the Holy Spirit), so that nullified proverbs 18:22 right there, but with both of them we were not equally yoked (see 2 Corinthians 6:14). It talks about not being equally yoked with someone. When it comes to relationships you have to be on the same page with them especially when it comes to God. You need to be equally yoked. If I am someone who goes to church and is growing in God, and the person I am seeing only goes 3 times a year and is not really in relationship with God, then we are not equally yoked. That is where I missed it in the last two relationships. We were not equally yoked in our belief system. I was going forward in God, and they were resisting the pull towards God. I thank God now that He removed them from my life, even though I went through a lot of pain. It’s not that they weren’t good people or they treated me terribly, but they weren’t equally yoked with me, our minds were not in the same place (this does not mean your mate is the same as you, sometimes you will get someone very different from you as far as mannerisms, or likes and dislikes, but your belief systems should always be the same).

So when you meet someone, go to the scriptures, test them against the Word. How did you all meet? Did he find you ladies (this doesn’t mean that you haven’t also gotten confirmation about who he is, because God might have given you that, but I suggest you don’t approach him, unless the Holy Sprint tells you to, which is a possibility too. And if the Holy Spirit does tell you to approach him, just be prayerful about it, and ask the Holy Spirit what to say, and He will give you the words)? Are you all equally yoked? Is who he or she is as a person, does their character align with the Word, of who a husband or wife should be (this does not mean that they are perfect)? If this is something you really desire it’s going to take some work, you should be studying the scriptures ladies and knowing what a husband is and how he should love and treat his wife. To all you men out there you should be studying also, and finding out what a virtuous woman is and how a woman is supposed to love and respect her husband. The bible says my people perish for a lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6). If we are not knowledgeable about what type of person we are supposed to have, then the enemy can throw us all kinds of imitations, and we can get sidetracked or confused, and we can be blocking our own blessing, if we don’t know the truth.

So I just encourage all of you out there that are desiring a mate, get into the Word! Do some studying, and most of all listen for the Holy Spirit. He operates like a stop light: red, yellow, green. If you are getting a red light, that means stop where you are and don’t proceed any further, if you are getting a yellow, that means stay prayerful and proceed with caution, and if you are getting the green light, then go forward with no hesitation. Listen for Him in your spirit, it’s not always an audible voice, sometimes it’s like a gut feeling, or sometimes it’s in your own voice in your mind, but you know it’s not you saying something like that, sometimes people hear the Holy Spirit through the Word, when they read a scripture it comes alive, and they get their direction that way. God speaks to different people in different ways, just be open to receive his instruction as you are on this journey towards your mate. I pray this has blessed you!

Tracy Houston